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How Families Can Boost Kids’ Mental Health During the Pandemic

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How Families Can Boost Kids’ Mental Health During the Pandemic
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By Erika Bocknek

The choice between in-person learning, where available, and remote learning is a fraught one for parents. Children experience joy and connection when they learn alongside other kids, but they risk being exposed to the coronavirus. Remote learning at home can protect kids from COVID-19, but does it set back their social-emotional development?

The choice between mental or physical health might feel stark. But as a family therapist and professor of educational psychology who studies resilience in families under stress, I can assure you that no single schooling option guarantees a happy, healthy kid or dooms a child to despair.

In fact, much more than schooling context, children's mental health relies on high-quality relationships within families.

Spending time with other children can benefit children's mental health, though it's not clear that group settings are necessary to achieve those gains. Some research from before the pandemic found that home-schooled children experience more academic success and better mental health than kids in school, especially when families maintain ties to religious institutions and community groups. Other studies show no differences or suggest that home-schooled children fall behind their peers. And of course processes within schools during the pandemic will change how children interact.

No matter what the schooling situation, four key components belong in a child's mental health toolkit. The good news is that parents can support all of these areas as part of in-person, remote, or small-pod learning.

Connecting Mind and Body: 'What I Need'

Mental health and physical health are inextricably linked. Physical activity, good nutrition, and sleep are all crucial for both. Children need clear bedtime routines and a consistent schedule — especially during times of unease such as now. Children need to go to bed at a similar time each evening and wake up at a similar time each morning.

This guidance applies across ages. Though it's normal for sleep schedules to shift in adolescence, consistency remains critical. Research increasingly shows that poor sleep hygiene is a central issue in symptoms of depression, anxiety, and other mental health problems.

Developing Identity: 'Who I Am'

Children of all ages incorporate information from both family members and peers into their sense of identity.

School exposes students to others with similar and different viewpoints or backgrounds and lets them confront social rules. Research with home-schooled children shows that interacting with other home-schooled kids is good for their mental health. Peer relationships, especially in adolescence, are related to self-esteem. Overall, positive peer relationships throughout childhood can help students adjust in school, while bad experiences leave the strongest mark on mental health.

But kids' empathy and pro-social behaviors, such as helping someone in need — characteristics they largely learn in their families — help them build and maintain their friendships. If you're worried about kids being isolated while learning remotely, remember that parent-child attachment is the most important source of self-esteem and a positive sense of self for children.

Focusing on reciprocity is one way families can help kids explore identity. Parents should ask open-ended questions and show curiosity about children's opinions and interests. Family rituals, such as a special weekly dinner, family game night, or a loving bedtime ritual, can support family bonding and help children gain a strong sense of self, contributing to better mental health. Parents can try to engage in 20 minutes of joyful, focused interaction with their kids each day and consistently observe and promote their children's positive attributes.

Regulating Emotions: 'How I Feel'

Skills that allow children to understand their emotions and make choices about how they respond to them are crucial building blocks of good mental health. Families can practice regulating emotions with their children, supporting strategies to understand and manage frustration, anger, and sadness when those feelings become unmanageable. Experiencing joy and positive emotions supports good mental health.

Children are likely to experience complex emotions in the coming months. At school, kids may have a hard time separating from family or difficulty when confronted with new safety measures and expectations. In addition, existing school-based risk factors such as bullying may exacerbate mental health issues. Children at home may feel disconnected and pick up on stress within families facing work and income challenges. Ongoing issues in families such as parental mental health problems and family violence can also put children at risk.

When children face emotions that are unfamiliar, dysregulated behavior — which can include sleeplessness, aggression, or listlessness, for example — may be a first indicator for adults, who can provide emotion coaching. Parents can regularly check in with children to take their "feelings temperature" and suggest ways to practice coping.

Outlets for creative expression, such as art, music, and dance can support positive emotional development and coping, as well.

Recognizing Interdependence: 'Who We Are'

A big piece of good mental health is being able to see yourself as a part of a whole.

The parent-child relationship is the context in which children learn to view themselves as interdependent — a person who is connected to previous generations and present networks.

Responses to the pandemic can threaten the usual sense of community. To help make up for any isolation, whether because of remote learning or physical distancing measures, families can provide opportunities for children to consider others' feelings and practice giving and receiving emotional support.

Parents must attend to their own mental health; research shows that if parents struggle with depression, aspects of children's social-emotional development — including building empathy skills and engaging socially — can also suffer.

Challenges Abound, But the Tools Are Consistent

Kids who were vulnerable before the pandemic remain vulnerable. But mental health risk factors are largely the same for children whether in school or learning from home.

Any changes, even happy ones, can create stress. Good mental health is the ability to adapt. The strategies in this toolkit can help children adapt and cope with stress, whether because of the pandemic, economic inequities, racism, unaddressed special needs, or interpersonal problems within a family.

Some children need to be in school. They may have complex learning needs, or they might be unsafe at home, and they depend on school to buffer problems at home. But the argument that all children in general must be at school to ward off a mental health crisis is just not true. Wherever and however kids are learning this year, families can support students so they continue developing as mentally healthy individuals.

Reposted with permission from The Conversation.

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